When it comes to a child’s natural development, a large part of it hinges on rivalry between siblings or potential siblings. Sometimes, the rivalry could be so intense that it renders the child unable to perform to his or her full potential due to the stress involved when competing with a sibling. However, sibling rivalry can be greatly reduced if handled appropriately. As parents, it is essential to provide children with the necessary support they need in order to grow up to become confident and self-assured adults. Their growth can be very easily undermined by something as simple as sibling rivalry, and this should be something parents should take note of.
From a young age, parents should encourage their children to be the best that they can be, and this alone should not be measured by how well their siblings are doing for instance.Every child is special, and one of the most taboo things to do as a parent would be to compare one sibling to another. In this article, we will explore and delve into 3 parenting tips that will help put a stop to sibling rivalry.
Never compare one child to the other
If you have more than one child, the golden rule of thumb should be the elimination of comparison altogether. Not only does it give undue stress to a child, it can have adverse and lasting negative impacts on a child. One child can be more adept than the other at problem solving or social skills. However, it is pertinent that parents do not highlight these differences to their children.
A prolonged exposure to being told that they are not as good as their sibling can lead to a lack of self esteem, which can be damaging in the long run. Instead, try to encourage your children to do things together and help each other out. Allow them to work on activities together that require teamwork. Get them to fix a jigsaw puzzle, or make a kite. This will not only enhance their cooperativeness, but also enable them to find their own strengths in a team building activity and embrace it.
Be in the know of each child’s strengths and don’t be stingy with praise
One of the most important things to take note of as a parent is your child’s strengths. It might be easy to spot their inadequacies or flaws, but never discount the impact it can have on your child if you know their strengths and are not afraid to praise them. Praising them does not mean lavishing lots of positive remarks on them senselessly. It means taking the time to get to know them, to find out their passion and encourage them to do what they love. It also means acknowledging that they are good at it or have the potential to be good at it.
Over time, this will help your children understand that each individual is unique, and that something a sibling is good at does not necessarily mean that he or she has to be good at it too. Their skill sets can be as diverse as day and night, and the onus is on each parent to be in the know of which aspects they shine in.
Allow them the space to resolve their own conflicts
Most importantly, and this is also something that is often overlooked, it is imperative that parents allow their children the freedom to “fight it out” among-st themselves. This is not to say that you do not bat an eyelid when they go into a full-fledged quarrel or physical fight. Rather, you should give them the space to resolve their own conflicts when it happens. Sometimes, the best bet is to allow them to realize for themselves that everyone’s strengths are different, but no matter what happens, their parents will love them all the same, and their parents will always love them equally and unequivocally. That’s the best a parent can do and also the most impact full message to send across to their children.
Above all, communication is key, and all parents should make use of this key to truly understand their children and accord them the best form of support that they deserve.